IMMERSION RETREAT

A few days with the front of house switched off.

Identity Architecture in one place, in person, with nothing else to attend to. 3 to 7 days, a small group I've chosen carefully, and the whole of The House of You worked through at depth. Locations vary from local in Australia to Thailand and Japan.

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Why away, and why in person

Most of this work happens in the gaps of a full life,
between meetings, after the kids are in bed. That's real work and it holds.

But there's a version of it that only becomes possible when you're somewhere else, with nowhere to be and nobody to be it for.

I lived in five-star hotels for more than twenty years, and I know what a well-run place does to a person after the first day. They stop managing. The retreat is built around that. Somewhere beautiful and private, with everything taken care of, so the only thing you're holding is the work.

How the days run

Before we go, you and I have a private conversation so I know what you're bringing and can put the group together with care. There's a little preparation, an evening's worth, not a week's.

01. The House of You

On the first day we map The House of You together, which moves further and faster in person than it does on a screen. Front of house, back of house, the rooms that are yours and the ones that were built for you.

02. Reckoning

The second day is the reckoning. What the structure has cost you. It's done gently, and with people around you who understand exactly why you built it the way you did.

03. Redesign

The third day is redesign. What you actually want, said out loud, tested against people who'll hold you to it, and turned into a plan.


The last day is the one most retreats leave out, and I think it's the one that matters most. How you take a redesigned house back into a life that hasn't changed, without the old structure quietly reasserting itself within a fortnight.

Within a month after you're home, we have a private follow-up session so we can see what's holding and
what needs attention.

What you leave with

An Identity Map and a redesign, done in days rather than months.

The unusual experience of being completely off stage with people who don't need you to be anything in particular.

A follow-up point, so the work doesn't dissolve the moment you land back in the everyday.

Is this the right door?

The retreat suits someone who wants the depth of the Retainer and can give it [four] uninterrupted days. It's demanding, and it isn't the right place to be if you're finding daily life hard to hold at the moment. I'll tell you that in our first conversation.

If you'd rather do this privately, or at a slower pace, that's what the Retainer is for.

One conversation, before anything else.

Places are limited and every one is filled through conversation. No obligation, nothing to prepare.

You tell me what's true. I'll tell you whether the retreat is right for you, and when and where the next one is.

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