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Ways to work with me
Private advisory for individuals and families navigating significant decisions, transitions and the complexities that come with lives of achievement.
My work combines clinical training, commercial experience and an approach I call Identity Architecture, helping clients examine what shapes their decisions and determine how they want to move forward.
01 / PRIVATE ADVISORY
Clarity Intensive
A 10-day focused one-to-one engagement for individuals navigating significant decisions, changing priorities and complex personal or professional transitions.
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02 / PRIVATE ADVISORY
Clarity Retainer
A 10-day focused one-to-one engagement to examine a particular decision, relationship or unresolved question and establish a considered way forward.
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03 / FAMILY ADVISORY
Family Advisory Retainer
Confidential advisory for families and family offices navigating succession, governance, intergenerational expectations and the human dynamics behind consequential decisions.
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04 / GROUP PROGRAMME
A Seat at the Table
A carefully curated group experience for accomplished women examining their lives, leadership and what they want from the years ahead.
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05 / EVENTS
Real Conversations
Speaking engagements and facilitated conversations exploring identity, change and the questions that shape how we live and lead.
Learn moreIdentity Architecture, and how it's done.
Somewhere along the way, you built a life. Or more accurately, a life got built. Some of it you chose. A great deal of it you inherited, absorbed, or agreed to before you were old enough to notice you were agreeing.
Decades on, that structure is what you live inside. For most
high-functioning people it works beautifully. Right up until it doesn't.
The work I do is Identity Architecture: making the structure you live inside visible to you, then rebuilding it around the person who actually lives there now.
How is Identity Architecture different from therapy or coaching?
Therapy tends to start with what’s wrong, and coaching with what you want next. My work starts underneath both, with the forces that have been quietly shaping your decisions for years: the beliefs, roles and expectations you may never have chosen.
It’s grounded in clinical training, strategic thinking and a real understanding of the decisions that come with a life of achievement. Most people know exactly what they don’t want. Far fewer can picture the life they want to create, or name the values that will hold it. That’s where we’re heading.
How we do it
First, the structure becomes visible.
Everyone has a front of house: the composed, capable self the world sees. Behind it sits the back of house, and that’s what actually holds you up. It’s built from rules you absorbed before you could question them, roles that now pass for your personality, and beliefs about what you owe everyone else.
Most of it was drawn up by someone else. You’ve been living in it ever since.
I call it The House of You.
Then, we walk through it.
We walk through The House of You, room by room, in three movements.
RECOGNITION
Who have I become?
We start by looking at what parts of your identity are authentically yours and still fit. We'll also uncover what's been inherited and never questioned, performed or sealed off entirely out of reach.
RECKONING
What has this cost me?
It's time to look at the energy that's been spent preserving your immaculate front of house. We'll examine the toll of maintaining an identity you've long since outgrown.
REDESIGN
What do I actually want?
Finally, we'll determine what you truly want and rebuild for that vision of your life so you feel confident you're living in alignment with your authentic self.
Shared experiences
Melissa Stehr
CEO, HLS Healthcare
Raechelle McLean
Founder & Managing Director, Accelerer
Fei Porter
Managing Director, MBB Captial
One conversation, before anything else.
Every engagement begins with an initial conversation to establish what you're navigating, what you're looking for and whether my approach is appropriate for your circumstances.
I work with a limited number of individuals and families, and take on new engagements where there is a clear fit.